Hello again,
dear reader. Lately we have been discussing important aspects of a mental EDC,
otherwise known as an "everyday carry" system yesterday during the
course of our conversation we discussed the importance of the "essence of
simplicity" so keeping in line with that same thought process, I figured
for today's discussion. We could pontificate on habit and action, or at least
for maxims that will help you dear reader, to turn your habits into decisive
action. Hopefully by the end of this conversation, dear reader, you will have a
better understanding of the psychology of habits and actions and will be able
to apply them successfully to your own life....
(It should be
noted here that I in no way altered any part of the following conversation.
Parts of it were merely condensed from a larger conversation in order to focus
your energy and time, dear reader.)
"Habit”
From The Principles of Psychology, 1890
By William James
From The Principles of Psychology, 1890
By William James
We
must make automatic and habitual, as early as possible, as many useful actions
as we can, and guard against the growing into ways that are likely to be
disadvantageous to us, as we should guard against the plague.
The
more of the details of our daily life we can hand over to the effortless
custody of automatism, the more our higher powers of mind will be set free for
their own proper work. There is no more miserable human being than one in whom
nothing is habitual but indecision, and for whom the lighting of every cigar,
the drinking of every cup, the time of rising and going to bed every day, and
the beginning of every bit of work, are subjects of express volitional
deliberation. Full half the time of such a man goes to the deciding, or
regretting, of matters which ought to be so ingrained in him as practically not
to exist for his consciousness at all. If there be such daily duties not yet
ingrained in any one of my readers, let him begin this very hour to set the
matter right.
In
Professor Bain’s chapter on “The Moral Habits” there are some admirable
practical remarks laid down. Two great maxims emerge from his treatment. The
first is that in the acquisition of a new habit, or the leaving off of an
old one:
We
must take care to launch ourselves with as strong and decided an initiative as
possible.
Accumulate
all the possible circumstances which shall re-enforce the right motives; put
yourself assiduously in conditions that encourage the new way; make engagements
incompatible with the old; take a public pledge, if the case allows; in short,
envelop your resolution with every aid you know. This will give your new
beginning such a momentum that the temptation to break down will not occur as
soon as it otherwise might; and every day during which a breakdown is postponed
adds to the chances of its not occurring at all.
The
second maxim is:
Never suffer an exception to occur till the new habit is securely rooted in your life.
Each
lapse is like the letting fall of a ball of string which one is carefully
winding up; a single slip undoes more than a great many turns will wind
again. Continuity of training is the great means of making the
nervous system act infallibly right. As Professor Bain says:
“The
peculiarity of the moral habits, contradistinguishing them from the
intellectual acquisitions, is the presence of two hostile powers, one to be
gradually raised into the ascendant over the other. It is necessary, above all
things, in such a situation, never to lose a battle. Every gain on the wrong
side undoes the effect of many conquests on the right. The essential
precaution, therefore, is so to regulate the two opposing powers that the one
may have a series of uninterrupted successes, until repetition has fortified it
to such a degree as to enable it to cope with the opposition, under any
circumstances. This is the theoretically best career of mental progress.”
The
need of securing success at the outset is imperative. Failure
at first is apt to dampen the energy of all future attempts, whereas past
experience of success nerves one to future vigor.
The
question of “tapering-off,” in abandoning such habits as drink and
opium-indulgence, comes in here, and is a question about which experts differ
within certain limits, and in regard to what may be best for an individual
case.
In
the main, however, all expert opinion would agree that abrupt acquisition of
the new habit is the best way, if there be a real possibility of carrying it
out. We must be careful not to give the will so stiff a task as to insure
its defeat at the very outset; but, provided one can stand it, a
sharp period of suffering, and then a free time, is the best thing to aim at,
whether in giving up a habit like that of opium, or in simply changing one’s
hours of rising or of work. It is surprising how soon a desire will die of
inanition if it be never fed.
“One
must first learn, unmoved, looking neither to the right nor left, to walk
firmly on the straight and narrow path, before one can begin ‘to make one’s
self over again.’ He who every day makes a fresh resolve is like one who,
arriving at the edge of the ditch he is to leap, forever stops and returns for
a fresh run. Without unbroken advance there is no such thing
as accumulation of the ethical forces possible, and to make this
possible, and to exercise us and habituate us in it, is the sovereign blessing
of regular work.”
A
third maxim may be added to the preceding pair:
Seize
the very first possible opportunity, to act on every resolution you make, and
on every emotional prompting you may experience in the direction of the habits
you aspire to gain.
It
is not in the moment of their forming, but in the moment of their producing motor
effects, that resolves and aspirations communicate the new “set” to the
brain.
No
matter how full a reservoir of maxims one may possess, and no
matter how good one’s sentiments may be, if one have not taken
advantage of every concrete opportunity to act, one’s
character may remain entirely unaffected for the better. With mere good
intentions, hell is proverbially paved. And this is an obvious consequence of
the principles we have laid down.
A
“character,” as J. S. Mill says, “is a completely fashioned will”; and a will,
in the sense in which he means it, is an aggregate of tendencies to act in a
firm and prompt and definite way upon all the principal emergencies of life. A
tendency to act only becomes effectively ingrained in us in proportion to the
uninterrupted frequency with which the actions actually occur, and the brain
“grows” to their use. Every time a resolve or a fine glow of feeling evaporates
without bearing practical fruit is worse than a chance lost; it works so as
positively to hinder future resolutions and emotions from taking the normal
path of discharge. There is no more contemptible type of human character than
that of the nerveless sentimentalist and dreamer, who spends his life in a
weltering sea of sensibility and emotion, but who never does a manly concrete
deed.
There
is reason to suppose that if we often flinch from making an effort, before we
know it the effort-making capacity will be gone; and that, if we suffer the
wandering of our attention, presently it will wander all the time. Attention
and effort are, as we shall see later, but two names for the same psychic fact.
As
a final practical maxim, relative to these habits of the will, we may, then,
offer something like this:
Keep the faculty of effort alive in you by a little gratuitous exercise every day.
That
is, be systematically ascetic or heroic in little unnecessary points, do every
day or two something for no other reason than that you would rather not do it,
so that when the hour of dire need draws nigh, it may find you not unnerved and
untrained to stand the test. Asceticism of this sort is like the insurance
which a man pays on his house and goods. The tax does him no good at the time,
and possibly may never bring him a return. But if the fire does come,
his having paid it will be his salvation from ruin. So with the man who has
daily inured himself to habits of concentrated attention, energetic volition,
and self-denial in unnecessary things. He will stand like a tower when
everything rocks around him, and when his softer fellow-mortals are winnowed
like chaff in the blast.
The
hell to be endured hereafter, of which theology tells, is no worse than the
hell we make for ourselves in this world by habitually fashioning our
characters in the wrong way. Could the young but realize how soon they will
become mere walking bundles of habits, they would give more heed to their
conduct while in the plastic state. We are spinning our own fates, good or
evil, and never to be undone. Every smallest stroke of virtue or of vice leaves
its never so little scar. The drunken Rip Van Winkle, in Jefferson’s play,
excuses himself for every fresh dereliction by saying, “I won’t count this
time!” Well! he may not count it, and a kind Heaven may not count it; but it is
being counted none the less. Down among his nerve-cells and fibers the
molecules are counting it, registering and storing it up to be used against him
when the next temptation comes. Nothing we ever do is, in strict scientific
literalness, wiped out.
Of
course, this has its good side as well as its bad one. As we become permanent
drunkards by so many separate drinks, so we become saints in the moral, and
authorities and experts in the practical and scientific spheres, by so many
separate acts and hours of work.
I like the idea of doing something each day that I'd really don't want to do. In reality, everyone should do something we are uncomfortable doing. It not only helps our brains develop and grow, but we may learn something new. Trying out new things takes us out of our comfort zone and that is a good thing! Losing some habits and creating new habits can't hurt and may actually help!!!
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